Create the relationship you want with your partner

Imagine being angry and speaking in a way that is clear and respectful.  Your partner can listen openly, without interrupting or getting defensive.  Difficult decisions can be made efficiently while meeting the needs of both partners.  It’s not easy, but it is possible.

In couples therapy we apply valuable tools and practice new behaviors to improve communication and connection.  As trust increases, we will explore the deeper issues that feed conflict and tension.  Most relationships have the potential to be more fulfilling, harmonious, passionate and fun.  We will clarify your goals for partnership and take concrete steps towards your vision.

Email or call Dana for a free 20 minute consultation to discuss how couples counseling can help you and your partner nurture a more satisfying relationship.

What should we expect from couples counseling?

Couples counseling varies widely depending your personalities and what you want to work on.  Nonetheless, couples therapy often includes the following components:

  • Assessment of what is and isn’t working in the relationship
  • Defining specific short and long-term goals
  • Creating a safe space to discuss difficult issues
  • Discovering how you can become a better partner
  • Practicing healthier ways to speak and listen to each other
  • Communication training
  • Suggestions for practice at home
  • Mediation to facilitate healthy collaboration
  • Exploration of the root causes that feed ongoing conflict
  • Collaboration to meet both partners’ needs in the relationship

How long will we be in counseling?

Couples counseling can be short and solution-focused, which could take 4-10 sessions.  Many couples find therapy so beneficial that they continue in an ongoing manner, often meeting every other week after the initial month or two.

Often we start meeting weekly to create more momentum for change and then meet less often once the short term goals have been met.  We will discuss what frequency of meeting works best for your goals, budget and lifestyle.

The goal of counseling is that you will become able to sustain your desired changes on your own.  When that goal is met, counseling is no longer necessary.